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Now, when a woman
does something that signals "I like you", it is VITALLY important
that you:
1) Know how to recognize it
2) DON'T do what MOST guy do
3) DO the right thing, and AMPLIFY it
So how can you tell if a woman is doing something that says "I like
you"? Well, it's VERY important to remember that women are far more
"subtle" than men (most of the time, that is). If a man is
interested in a woman, you can see it all over his face. It's
usually very obvious. But women are different. Women do SMALL
things.
A little touch. A sly smile. Sometimes a comment like "You're so
cute" (as in your example above). But then IT'S GONE.
Women always seem to act like they're not quite sure. They don't
send consistent signals that most men can "read".
And when they DO send signals that are easy to see, most guys
respond in a way that makes those signals stop...which makes things
even MORE confusing. Again, women aren't as CONSISTENT as men. A
woman can seem like she's interested one minute, then stand-offish
the next.
So rule #1 is:
JUST BECAUSE SHE'S DOING SOMETHING THAT SAYS "I LIKE YOU", DON'T
THINK THAT IT MEANS "I LIKE YOU NO MATTER WHAT".
Much better to interpret subtle "I like you" cues as "I like you for
a second, but if you start acting like a Wuss Bag or Dumb Ass, it
will all be over in an instant".
Unfortunately for most guys, they take "I like you" signals to mean
"You've won my approval, now you can do whatever you want". And what
do they do? Of course... They turn into dorks, say or do a few
stupid things, and destroy it all. Oh, how many times I've watched
guys (myself included) screw up perfectly good situations because
they just didn't get this concept.
Let me give you an example:
Let's say that you're out with a woman, and you've been teasing her,
and she smiles and says "I like you". A typical "male" response is
for a guy to think to himself "OK, I'm in... she digs me" and to get
that rush in the head and chest.
Next thing you know, he's acting different. He's talking about
different things. He's giving compliments. He's being "nicer".
And what's the woman thinking while this is all going on? Of
course... she's thinking "Uh oh, his cool, calm, interesting
personality was just a cover for the secret inner-Wuss that was
hiding out, waiting for a little bit of approval from me... AHHHHHH!"
Women KNOW that they're in control of the situation. Or at least
MOST of the time they are... and they THINK that they are even
during the times when they're not.
They're constantly using different kinds of communication to test
and "feel out" the situation. Remember, MOST of the time when you're
saying something that you think is nice, charming, and original,
it's something that a woman has heard about 47 times that week from
other guys.
Us guys act VERY predictably most of the time.
And women know how to tell if you're just another loser who's
pretending to be cool... who will turn into an average Wuss at the
first sign of attraction from a cute woman. Think about what I just
said. This is hard for a lot of guys to swallow... but it's the
reality of the situation.
There's something that women call "Sexual Tension". It's also known
as "Chemistry" or "Attraction" as well. But only WOMEN know it this
way. When you tease a woman, make her laugh, play hard to get with
her, act unpredictably, etc. in the right way, you will create this
tension. This is what usually leads to a woman saying something like
"You're cute" or "I like you".
It's the TENSION that makes her FEEL it and SAY it.
THE TENSION!
In these very special moments, you need to turn the tension UP. Dial
it up. AMPLIFY it. Don't diffuse it all by saying "You're cute
yourself" or "I like you, too". Or by smiling like a jackass wussy
dork who has just seen his first rainbow.
This kind of thing RELEASES the tension, and it usually takes that
wonderful electric attraction feeling that the woman is feeling and
INSTANTLY kills it. Does this make logical sense?
Hell no. But it's what happens. OK, so let's talk about the RIGHT
way to handle this type of situation:
Remember when I said that it's the TENSION that makes a woman feel
the feelings and make the comments?
And that you need to AMPLIFY it when you're getting a positive
response?
Nice. Once upon a time, there was a scene in a movie that
illustrated this concept PERFECTLY. In fact, it might be the
all-time greatest example of this principle that has ever been
recorded on film.
Remember the end of "The Empire Strikes Back" when they were about
to put Han Solo into the deep freeze?
Remember when Leia said "I love you"...?
Remember what Han said?
Right, he said... "I know".
Perfect.
All of the sexual tension that built up in Star Wars and Empire
culminated in Leia confessing her love. And Han says "I know".
Awesome!
Imagine being Leia. What could be going through her mind at this
point? An answer like this isn't easy to understand. It has all
kinds of implications. It's confusing.
It says "I know you love me, because it's been obvious for a long
time...". But it doesn't let HER know how he feels exactly. It
requires consideration. It dials up the tension. It's amazing.
By the way, I read that when they were filming that scene Han was
supposed to answer "I love you too", but the director didn't like
it. They tried all kinds of things, and in the end Harrison Ford
made up that line on the spot in one of the takes... and they kept
it. Nice.
By the way, one of the BIG reasons why the newer movies in the Star
Wars series suck is because there is no character like Han... think
about it. It's all boring, predictable stuff. There's no sexy,
arrogant, funny, wildcard personality messing things up.
Like I pointed out after I saw "Attack Of The Clones", Anakin had to
kill an ENTIRE VILLAGE of Sand People just to convince Princess A.
that he wasn't a complete and total Wuss. Would have been so much
easier and more entertaining if he would have just had a
PERSONALITY.
Whatever.
Now where was I...?
Oh, yea... amplifying the sexual tension...
If you're out with a woman, and you tease her because she's wearing
four inch heels by saying "What's the deal, are you four feet tall
without those one?", and she opens her mouth with the classic "Oh no
you didn't" look (smiling of course, with that surprised smile)...
and you dial it up to the next level with "Oh, I'm sorry...Four foot
three?"... and she hits you on the arm...
...and then she stops, puts her hand on your arm, and says "You
know, you're funny"...
...what do you do?
YOU SAY "YEA, I KNOW" - in a serious tone.
Or "Don't try to use compliments to make me like you. It won't work.
Go buy me a drink or something... I prefer gifts and money."
Or look down at her hand on your arm, lean back slightly, turn your
head, and put your eyebrows together as if to say "Just WHAT do you
think you're doing touching me?!".
TURN IT UP, my friend!
You TURN UP the tension.
AMPLIFY it.
Keep it going.
If you keep amplifying the tension and attraction at each of these
wonderful moments, good things will happen. Good stuff.
OK, I have a question. Want more killer ideas like this one?
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