Readers Questions And Answers: How To Tell Her You Like Her

Dear David,
I have lots of respect Dave,

I have and issue, no matter where i am and i see a girl that i like, i am some how afraid to go over and talk to her. If you could let me know what to do to get rid of this fear as soon as possible.

Thanks."

My Reply: It takes a lot of nerve to admit that you're afraid in these situations. You're not alone.
Here's the deal: Every one of us is different.

I know you want a quick solution, but a quick solution depends more on you than it does on anything else. I recommend that you start by chatting with women on AOL and other instant messaging services. This is great free practice, and it allows you to think, because IMs are slow.

Next, work your way up to conversations with waitresses, checkers, bar tenders, hostesses, and other women who are being paid to be nice to you. Then, try doing something that involves a lot of people with a common interest... like yoga, pottery, or sports. These situations have a lot of built in opportunities to talk to women you don't know.

Finally, start talking to women that you see everywhere.

Of course, it's very important to know what to say, and how to talk to them. For a full explanation of the mindset and attitude, refer to my book "Double Your Dating." It's up to you how fast you progress. Remember, they don't bite... (well, most of them don't).

Hi David,
I've known this girl I grew up with since we were little, but the only problem is that I don't know how I should go about telling her that I'm interested in her, every time that we are out with some friends of our every thing is all right, but when its just me and her in the car its quiet not much to say to one another and that if its the right thing to do to ask her if there could be something between her and I since we are so close what should I do.
Thanks...

My Reply: SSSSSSSSSSSSSTTTTTOOOOOOOOOOOOOOPPPPP!

Whoa, Trigger. The first thing you need to do is NOT "go about telling her that you're interested in her."

And the second thing you need to do is NOT "ask her if there could be something between her and I".

NO NO NO NO NO.

But first, let's address the "every time we go out and it's just her and me in the car it's quiet" thing. The reason that it's quiet is because YOU LIKE HER, SHE KNOWS THAT YOU DO, YOU CAN'T THINK OF ANYTHING TO SAY TO HER, AND YOU JUST ACT LIKE A WUSS... WHICH ONLY MAKES THINGS WORSE.

I'd be quiet if I were in a car with you myself (but, unlike her, I think you're pretty cute). Try this:
Do yourself a huge favor, and date a few other women for awhile.
Don't call her for a week or two.
Then, when you do talk to her or see her again, just be friends with her. Tell her about what you're up to, that you're dating some other women, and that you have to go... then hang up.

You need to get some other options in your life, and you need to quit being quiet and creating that uncomfortable silence which says "I'm attracted to you, I'm insecure about it, and I'm sure hoping that you like me back." Don't do that anymore.

Women aren't attracted to weakness and insecurity. And one of the best ways to communicate that you're weak and insecure is to ASK her if she likes you, or tell her you like her. And read my book "Double Your Dating." You'll learn a lot.

If you haven't yet gotten your copy of my online book "Double Your Dating" (yea, the one that everyone in these emails are talking about), then what the heck are you waiting for? Go here.

The Double Your Dating ebook and the three bonus ebooklets that come with it ['Sex Secrets', 'Bridges' and a third ebooklet that can't be mentioned here] form the foundation of everything you will learn through reading these articles and with the ebooks.