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As soon as you
start talking, END the conversation.
Say "It was nice meeting you, I'm going to get back to my
friends..." then turn away. Quickly turn back and say "Hey! Do you
have email?" If she says yes, pull out a pen and paper and say
"Here, write it down... I'd like to talk to you again."
It's really not that difficult.
The problem in busy, crowded public situations is that there are WAY
too many distractions. You're competing with music, loud drunk
people, or whatever else is around. It's like trying have a
meaningful conversation at a baseball game.
Instead, get the info, and move on. If you follow up with a charming
email, you'll hear back 50%-80% of the time (in my experience).
And for GODSAKES... STOP ASKING BORING QUESTIONS! You're not on a
job interview. And neither is she. Boring, lame, typical questions
only position you as an average dork.
Dear David,
Cocky and funny is absolutely the best technique for getting women,
but there is still more to it. Keeping your composure is also very
important. If for any reason you say... trip and fall... then don't
overreact! Every human on the face of the planet makes mistakes
similar to that, and you make it a lot worse by blowing it out of
proportion by freaking out in crazy embarrassed way. Just get back
up, laugh a little and say a little "oops" or something then go on
like nothing happened. Act like you aren't fazed when you screw up
around girls. It gives an overwhelming sense to the girls that you
are one confident badass.
Confidence is beyond important. You cannot show fear of anything.
People have got to look at the world as their own playground, where
everybody else is just their string puppets for them to control to
get what they want. You've got to emit the sense to whatever girl
you are trying to hook up with that you think anything is possible.
There is no fear, and thus there is only supreme confidence. Supreme
confidence
will bring you supreme women.
My Reply:
Ah, one of my favorite topics: COMPOSURE.
I have been thinking a lot about the concept of composure lately.
I'm actually writing a section on it in a future book... and I spent
some time talking about it in the Los Angeles seminar back in May.
Composure if vital because we humans tend to read very subtle cues
from others, then make large judgments about them as people.
For instance, if you're the type that let's little things bother
you, then you're probably going to be thought of as
not-exactly-masculine.
For instance, let's say that you're out with a girl for coffee, and
you come out to find a parking ticket on your car. Some guys I know
wouldn't even think about it... they'd just get upset. They'd start
whining, ranting and raving... and throwing a tantrum... with no
regard for what the woman is thinking of them.
On the other hand, I know guys who would causally pick up the
ticket, make a funny comment, and not even miss a beat. What's the
difference?
The guy who keeps his composure at all times is FAR more attractive
than the one who doesn't. Another place that composure plays an
important part is when women TEST men. If a woman starts trying to
push your buttons, becomes demanding, or starts being dramatic about
something, you need to KEEP YOUR COOL.
In fact, some of the guys I know who are THE MOST successful with
women actually don't even respond AT ALL to drama or tests from
women. They just continue what they were doing.
Oh the other hand, I know some guys who let this kind of thing take
them off balance and upset them (I used to be one of those guys). If
you let things like this upset you, or even get to you a little bit,
it's going to be obvious that you can't control your emotions, and
it will make you less attractive all the way around.
Keep your composure. Keep your composure. Keep your composure.
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